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Husband and Wife Roles

That the bible tells husbands to love their wives and women to respect their husbands speaks to the difference between men and women as well as the roles they are to fulfill. In order for Satan to build the coercive collectives he needs with people as compliant components, he has to destroy the family as an alternative to his society. He has done a good job getting many women to see their role as a drone in a corporate hive as something they should be willing to sacrifice everything to achieve. Ironically, all the while having them declare that to be an exploited wage slave is more prestigious than an honored wife and mother.

The Industrial Revolution took men out of the home. Public school took children out of the home. Lastly, Feminism took women out of the home. The fragmentation of the home has disconnected people and left them even more vulnerable to the Satanic influences in society that tend to lock people into selfishness.

A Catholic priest once observed that it was important for men to be in charge of something by the time they are 30. He had observed many men in his religious order outside of families and had concluded that this was necessary. It speaks volumes that the role of men is designed to be different than women. Almost every TV program (and before that radio program) portrays husbands as ineffectual dolts who need to be corrected by their wives and children. This comic portrayal is so pervasive one can see how important it is to Satan to denigrate husbands and fathers because he has allocated so many of his resources to do so.

There are many examples of bad marriages such as result from selfishness, immaturity, external interests, consumptive indulgences, and frustrated expectations. However, if a husband and wife can grow in Christ-likeness, they can have a happy home and see their children build happy homes of their own. A traditional family has to be aware of and shun those Satanic forces of the world that would make havoc of their lives. Both the Red Pill movement and Feminism advocate selfishness as a “solution”, only to find that these inflict even more damage on one’s life.

Children benefit greatly from observing obvious affection between their parents. This practical daily experience establishes a foundation of what a marriage can and should be. The cartoon image of a man telling his wife and children what to do falls apart in the face of real life. A man is wise to solicit opinions and suggestions. He is the ultimate head of the family, however, any leader that is effective is not autocratic. In the military a leader is respected if he demonstrates his concern for those he leads. In a traditional home, this concern is demonstrated though conversation, inquiry, and affection. An excessive emphasis on events, entertainments, and treats can create a consumer and consumptive perspective that feeds the flesh. An emphasis on learning, questioning, and inquiry contributes to a sort of “reach” beyond self. One needs to maintain a balance and avoid both the austere and indulgent.

Some men are taciturn and uncomfortable with verbal expression. This inclination needs to be overcome to some extent so that the other family members who depend on his leadership know that he has an interest in them and can discern his affection for them. The absence of communication is a gulf that may be filled with apprehension, assumption, uncertainty, and fear.

Women need to be able to communicate as well. Parents that communicate affection even with a hand on the shoulder, pat on the head, or a hug can do much to insure that a child knows he is loved and secure.

Traditional roles are not so much the stereotype image of a bossy husband issuing Hitler like orders, but the more real dynamic of each parent working in their sphere to insure the family comes first more than their own desires. In modern times this also includes a savy appreciation of the many and diverse ways Satan has set in motion that which would destroy their home and seduce their children.




  


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