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Chapter 17 - Identifying Unhealthy Relationships

Even as children we can have what is called a 'dysfunctional home'. If we are Christian as a child or become Christian later in life, it can be difficult to reconcile a painful childhood with the love of God. However, that no matter the circumstances, God is faithful and his purposes are for the best. Joseph who was sold into slavery by his brothers testifies to this.

If we can hold to a solid perception of truth, we can see those things that are unhealthy for what they really are and are better able to avoid their damaging effects. For example, the Christian who grows in the discernment of truth may come to see abusive parents not so much as evil monsters who made him feel bad, but as sad people whose lives were out of control at the inflammation of their passions.

It is best to recognize those with whom relationship would be unhealthy or even hazardous and avoid them.

If one has not the discernment to avoid what politically has been called 'entangling alliances’, one may discover that one is already in a relationship that is toxic. While friendships and acquaintanceships can exert a corrupting influence, they can also be reduced and ended. Marriage can be a different matter. God hates divorce. Therefore the greatest care should be taken to discern the character of the person you wed.

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